I don want to play the dating game
My last blog on top dating mistakes women make caused an uproar among male readers who complained my advice encouraged women to “play games.” Not a huge surprise, since the most common dating blunders are a boon to lazy men looking for casual flings.
But a bit ironic, given that MEN themselves are masters of game playing in relationships.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.
You wonder what happened and begin to question every move you made. Simply put, when you pull away, they'll re-engage you. After a cycle or two of this routine you'll be so confused you won't know which way to move.
Without realizing it, you've submitted to their need for emotional and psychological control. The pattern repeats itself for as long as you're willing to play this game.
The beautiful truth is that this has nothing to do with you. There's nothing you did, or didn't do, that's causing this.
Men with lukewarm interest won’t pursue a woman who is even the slightest challenge – but not even teams of wild horses (much less a few pesky Rules) can deter the man who really, really loves you. Two can certainly play at this game, but when the on-again-off-again routine starts stretching into years, vs. As Greg Behrendt put it in : “What could be better than hearing from the man who just told you he didn’t want you in his life anymore, his sad, wistful, ‘I miss you so much’ voice on the other end of the phone?
At best, it’s just laziness, lack of organization, or taking a woman’s time and schedule for granted.
Either way, it doesn’t really make a gal feel special or respected when a man calls right before he wants to see her.
Don't let your friends analyze your situation and convince you otherwise.
Just notice where you are in the cycle and don't let it disempower you.